Windy Beach was not my Dream

As I look back to last summer I see once more the reason for one situation that occured back then: I wanted to sunbath but I did not communicate it the way that I should have. So I ended up on a windy beach, where I could not sunbath.

Being in a relationship is sometimes tough – you need to convince, first of all you need to be aware of what you want and what you expect. If not, you will get what your partner wants – and please don’t complain about it.

This situation – I had a summer dream, planned vacation with my partner but did not talk about my wish – made me ask myself, how important is to act, to put physical energy (talk, plan, make phone calls etc.) behind an idea, as a result of ‘having a dream’.

My summer dream

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Dreaming of the summer #sleepless in Cologne

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At least I wore my jacket on my summer holiday ! that worked.

Now I am looking forward for next summer – that will be great, I can tell you.

Recovering from Hurt

You might follow our Facebook page and have seen this inspirational picture saying

Only fools keep old hurts

Forever in their hearts

© Dora Marii 2018

What is this supposed to mean? Can you relate to that?

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It sounds a little bit harsh, yet I have decided to keep it that way for the purpose of emphasizing the importance of letting go of old hurts.

Now that is an exercise in happiness. Some people might have hurt you, on purpose or not. Reflecting and gathering experience in your social interactions, you can learn with Time that most hurts were not done on purpose. People do not mean to hurt you. When that happens, it might be a sign of them being extremly under stress, unhappy or wearing a burden that you are not necessarily aware of. Imagine that the next time you feel offended by some one’s behaviour.

If you are sure that some one had hurt you on purpose – ask yourself, why do you stick around? Is it necessary? This situation will repeat itself and you might not be able to change it in any way. Your way is just as important as anybody else’s. Affirm your position and make clear that you have felt hurt and watch the reaction of the involved person. Just keep in mind that you have to stand up for yourself and affirm how you want to be treated.

Next step is the letting go of the painful memory and healing your soul, just as you take care of your body if it were injured. You need a healthy body as well as a healthy soul in order to live your life, find and fulfill your life’s plan as well as reach any goals that you have set for yourself.

Is there anything that hurt you and that you still carry around with you? Let me know in the comments below.

What did you do last summer?

© August 2018 Dora Marii

Last summer I went on a family holiday with my boyfriend and our kids. As you see in the picture above, we were at the seaside – it was somewhere in Holland (Zeeland).

This is a windy place and even if I had hoped to take sunbaths and improve my skin tan, it did not work that way because it was far too windy. You see, working indoors does not give you the best tanning. I usually get what they call “the programmer’s tan” or a variant of it. My legs are mostly white while my face, neck and arms get a decent bronze colour.

Even so, one must be a fool not to enjoy his holidays and so I had looked around and found some inspiration in this high grass.